Lockdown Diary Week 3

Not sure how much longer I will feel like writing another version of more of the same, but for now, here it is.

5/4/2020 Sunday
This week I have succumbed to a popular lockdown trend which is all about counting one’s blessings and being grateful. I am not going to torture anybody with attempts at poetry (small mercies), but I will say this. I fully appreciate how lucky we are to be locked down as a group of 4 people who get on well together. On the whole. Most of the time. Imagine being stuck in this scenario with a religious zealot with ambitious quarterly conversion quotas. Or with a militant fruitarian. Or that guy from GMTV who shares the sofa with Suzanna Reid.  Lockdown is bringing out the best in our family.  The girls have been amazing, and we have had some truly priceless moments of nonsensical fun in the last couple of weeks. During the day we mainly go about our own separate business, only bumping into one another by the kettle, but in the evenings we all gravitate towards the kitchen and living room area. Tonight we had an impromptu general knowledge quiz with Alexia as the quiz master, Amelia and I keenly competitive players, and my husband taking it easy. As predictable as it gets and equally comforting. Other days we cook and bake together. What I mean by this is my husband cooks, Amelia bakes, I load the dishwasher and Alexia shows us her favourite tiktoks.
So there. Blessings, counted.

6/4/2020 Monday
My husband took up juggling as his once a day exercise activity. Every afternoon he puts on his tracksuit bottoms and trainers, picks up his balls, and off he goes to a stretch of grass at the end of our road. He comes back 45 minutes later, out of breath and rosy cheeks. I ask him how juggling can be so tiring, he says he drops the balls so much that he is up and down all the time so it becomes a proper jumping frog workout.

Lockdown sofa conversations;

– I want to grow something unusual this year. What can I grow?
– A pair of balls?
If looks could kill.

– I am going to have a bath today.
– Good idea. The whole family appreciates it.

 

7/4/2020 Tuesday
Holding my breath for Boris for the second day running. I am scared to switch on the radio.

 

8/4/2020 Wednesday
In the parallel universe which I planned meticulously, and which did not happen in the end, we would have been spending this week in North Yorkshire.
Smoked Kipper Cottage, pet friendly, three storey, walking distance from Whitby harbour, sleeps 6. The refund is in the post.

As a substitute, we are watching a nature programme set on the riverbanks of Dorset. My husband’s choice. We are being shown a type of mayfly which has a window of only one day to mate. My husband is visibly moved by their plight. He reacts with solemn ‘Shame, man’, the all-encompassing South African expression of empathy. I console my husband the best I can.

9/4/2020 Thursday
Went to Sainsbury’s for the first time since the introduction of queuing 2 metres apart and standing between strips of tape on the floor. Let’s just say, I will not be doing that again in a hurry.
Back to corner shop diet for the foreseeable.

Trying to remember what the exact point was of having a different name for each day of the week.

10/4/2020 Good Friday
Duolingo has been sending me angry emails for not sticking to the daily lessons plan. Being a totally predictable lockdown cliche I decided to brush up on my French. I have been meaning to do that for a while and now finally I have no excuse. Duolingo is not allowing me to access more advanced modules before I complete the warm-up sessions, so I have spent the last few days listening to ‘les femmes et les hommes mangent les pizzas’. I could of course move on to a different app, but I am dying to see what the Spiritual, Politics and Economics modules contain. La curiosité a tué le chat

11/4/2020 Saturday
I am amazed how unstressed I have been about almost complete lack of work and what follows, income, over the last three weeks. Must be the wine.

In other news, I have continued to shun the news as much as practicable. Replacing BBC Radio 4 and LBC with Magic FM and Capital as my favourite car radio was a master stroke.
I have managed to make descaling a kettle the whole day job.
Each family member successfully dodged all house cleaning activity.

A brisk walk in the park has now become a fixed item on my daily agenda, and it is beginning to look suspiciously like a recommended amount of weekly fitness activity, something I have not come close to in years.

Lockdown Diary Week 2

The quality of my writing is becoming inversely proportional to the duration of social distancing and the lack of fresh food in the house. I am sorry about that.

29/3/2020 Sunday
Enforced 24 hour close proximity to family members is beginning to take its toll.

After yet another episode of incessant chatting by Alexia, her older sister Amelia offered to give her £20 in hard cash if she didn’t talk for a month.
Alexia said she would need to a significantly larger monetary incentive to consider giving up one of her hobbies for a month.
After Alexia’s father promptly offered another £20, Alexia went to her room to learn sign language. She has not been seen for the rest of the day.

30/3/2020 Monday
Have not read or listened to the news since last Friday. Well done me, but it’s early days, as I used to be a total news junkie, and they say it takes three weeks to break a habit.
My finger still hovers over the news icons on my phone several times a day, but I am being strong. A news detox within within a lockdown. Highly recommended. I am not going to pretend that not reading the news has brought me an ultimate nirvana, but I am much less anxious, and free to get on with everything else. Which is not much of course, there is nothing to get on with, but still, the lack of news has been good for my soul.

Watched JoJo Rabbit today. Double whammy.
Firstly, judging by the trailer, and minimal spoilers (a little boy having Hitler as his imaginary friend) and Rebel Wilson’s presence, I expected over the top nonsensical comedy all the way, It wasn’t. It was touching and funny, and tender, and moving, absurd and comic with a big layer of arty.
Secondly, watching it in lockdown London added an uncomfortable new dimension to the experience. Only a short couple of months ago when the film first came out, none of us thought it could possibly become even remotely ‘relatable’ again in our lifetime. Fast forward a few weeks, and ‘What is the first thing you are going to do when you are free?’ is once again the question many of us are quietly fantasising about.

31/3/2020 Tuesday
My husband is a very special person. Truly unique. Instantly likeable, big-hearted, warm and friendly. So far so perfect. However. He is determined to go through life unfussed (his word), and refuses to take anything seriously, with the exception of his morning skincare routine and South African rugby.
Don’t get me wrong, he does his bit for the NHS like the rest of us, washes his hands until they bleed, and has eagerly embraced social distancing long before the government asked the rest of the country to do so.
What he valiantly refuses to do is engage with any aspect of the unfolding worldwide drama. Today, as soon as I woke up, he greeted me with a joyful twinkle in his eye.

– Did you know that termites and ants build their highways next to each other, and they both put guards at the edges, the guards face each other, they don’t fight, they just guard the highways?
– How do you know about this?
– I watched a video about it. Fascinating stuff!
-How do you know it is not fake news?

He is not speaking to me.

1/4/2020 Wednesday
Two weeks ago we cancelled our cleaning lady until further notice. We then spent the next 14 days watching the dust settle slowly all around us. Quite a calming experience, but after I had not stopped sneezing all day yesterday, I could not put it off any longer. Today I set off to clean the house for the first time in more years than I am prepared to admit. Our cleaner managed to do the whole house and the ironing within six hours. After two frustrating hours, I was not even half way through the kitchen, and there is a real possibility the hob might not work again, after I drowned it in some orange gloop. The good news is I can only get better at it.

2/4/2020 Thursday
My hands aged a decade in the last fortnight. In a serious case of over-washing, they are now covered in a multitude of itchy red bumps, and no amount of coconut oil seems to be doing anything for the wrinkles. I feel for Lady Macbeth, I really do.

My son’s room has been designated as a quarantine depot. Everything non-fridge that comes through the front door gets labelled with a safe-to-touch date three days after arrival.
I have become that anal-retentive person I’d always laughed at. I also hope my husband has not ordered any perishables from ‘Viking Office Supplies’.

I must be every inspirational meme maker’s dream. I took up skateboarding today. Took up is probably getting ahead of myself a little bit, but I stood on a skateboard for the first time today, holding on for dear life to my daughter’s jacket’s sleeve.
YouTube channel to follow.

3/4/2020 Friday
Woke up with a short lived surge of excitement, it’s Friday! It did not last. It’s not as if the weekend is going to be any different to the previous ten days or so. Still, old habits die hard.

We continue to introduce our home-grown teenagers to the industry-defining films from the 1980s, paying special attention to classic movie quotes. Yesterday we watched the original Terminator. Half way through he did say ‘I’ll be back’, but it sounded positively lackadaisical to me, or lame to my daughters’ ears, so clearly, it must have only been in the subsequent episodes that the phrase became truly iconic.
Movie trivia level lockdown achieved.

4/4/2020 Saturday
This week has been all about taking one day at a time doing exactly the same as the day before. I have a lie-in each morning, because every day is an unwanted Saturday.
Days are slipping through our rubber-gloved fingers with little to show for them.
The only scraps of routine we hold onto, for now, are our daily walks in the park, 5.30 pm for an hour.

In a cruel twist of fate for all involved, I have been nominated the family food shopper (ffs) for the duration. I am not yet ready to face an hour long queue outside Sainsbury’s keeping 6 ft. gaps, so food is scarce and unexciting.
We have not yet opened any of our impressive collection of tinned Three Beans Salad, but the day is drawing nearer.Cream crackers with mature Cheddar and smoked mussels in sunflower oil have become a perfectly acceptable dinner option.
We had a fruit and veg delivery this week, from Clapham Fresh. Best blueberries I ever had. Otherwise, it’s whatever I can grab at the corner shop and Co-op. Ocado virtual queue is a distant memory.

Work. Still non-existent, bar a few NHS 111 calls a day.

And finally. I learned a new word this week. Furlough. Thought it was something to do with horse-racing. Fortunately, my husband was on hand to mansplain it to me.

 

Lockdown Diary Week 1

This is as unexciting as it gets, but I like to keep a record.
If you are looking for something inspirational, please keep looking.

Day 1
Friday the 20th of March 2020. School’s out. Until further notice. I stare blankly into months of having two uprooted teenagers in the house. They don’t don’t yet realise how hard they are going to be hit by this, but I do. They don’t yet feel they have been robbed, but I do and I feel sorry and anxious for them. They are bursting with life and raring to go, they are not meant to sit at home at Google classroom they are supposed to live each day to the brim, and I am raging against all of it on their behalf.

Enough of that. Serious and sombre is not going to work for me. Never have.

Day 2
21/3/2020
Would the real corona-stricken spirit of Britain please stand up?

Whilst selfish stock-piling is an undeniable fact, our whole street has been on a mission to get a few oranges for Judy from number 47 (not her real number) who is on 12-week self-isolation due to age, strictly imposed by her daughter. By midday Judy has had enough oranges to start her own range of Norwood Marmalade.

Day 3
22/3/2020
As we are all at home all the time with precious little to do, Charlie our hedgehog, has been getting more attention than ever. He is hating every minute of it.

Mother’s Day today. A walk at Selsdon Park Nature Reserve. Chinese and Indian takeaway. Knives Out on TV. Well, not really on TV, as it was still showing at cinemas until they closed, but I’ve learnt not to ask unnecessary questions. Altogether a lovely day. Not ‘in the circumstances’, not ‘all things considered’, just a really good day.

Day 4
23/3/2020
8.40 am. School online registration time. Younger daughter fully dressed, post-breakfast, bed made to perfection. Older daughter invisible from under her duvet.

The younger one explains cheerily that she needs the routine to protect her sanity. The older one growls from her room, ‘You can only protect something you actually possess’. She turns over.

Day 5
24/3/2020

The headteacher offers us a quote from Lenin in her daily lockdown update email.  “There are decades where nothing happens, and there are weeks where decades happen.” A headteacher of a Catholic school quoting a Marxist leader. The world might truly never be the same again.

Still Day 5, later in the evening. We are treated to a spontaneous kazoo concert on the landing.

Day 5 still. Is 8.52 too early to go to bed?  Days have never felt that long. I have time for everything and nothing to do.

Day 6
25/6/2020
Provisions are running low. We cannot put off going to the shops any longer. I am wearing an impromptu face mask made out of Henry hoover bag, fastened with two safety pins and hooked up over my ears with a couple of matching loom bands. Remember loom bands? Not throwing them away all these years ago is paying off.

Day 7
26/3/2020
Watching Dirty Dancing with the family.
Alexia,14, hears ‘Nobody puts Baby in the corner’ for the very first time. Young people today learn everything so much earlier. I had to wait until I was 21 to watch it. That’s when the movie came out.

On the subject of watching. This week I watched all of Series 6 of Silent Witness, am now on Series 7, first broadcast in 2003, the year I got married. Amanda Burton in the lead role. London in the early noughties. Pure unadulterated escapism available on iPlayer.

Day 8
27/3/2020
Neighbourhood Whatsapp group is on a mission to buy eggs for Judy so she can comfort bake in her isolation. Neighbour after neighbour has reported failure to locate eggs within three miles radius.

On an off chance, out of curiosity really, I go out to our corner shop. They have everything! Eggs, toilet paper, milk, bread, and, wait for it, a hand cleaner!  I buy the lot.

Today I might have discovered the best way there is to cope with what is happening. It is not easy and it takes effort, but it works wonders, so I am determined to stick with it. Today I did not read a single news headline, and limited social media to sloth lovers Facebook group, and I feel the best I felt for weeks. I used to add a mix of Daily Mail, The Guardian and BBC News to my morning coffee, and then checked the headlines in regular intervals throughout the day.
No more.
From now on I am going to make not reading the news my new daily goal. I don’t usually bother with daily goals mind you, but everybody’s talking about doing something useful with all that quarantine time, so I am going to have a go at Not Following The News.

Day 9
28/3/2020
Saturday. Highlights of the week. Very few. For the first three days of the past week I amused myself by logging in to Ocado website, only to be put in virtual queue for two hours, whilst I could watch the little green lorry moving slowly forward, and the counter telling me I was now 230642 customer in the queue. Finally my turn came to book delivery, only to be told that there were no delivery slots available, and I was thrown back to the end of the virtual queue. That game lost its appeal after a while, so I stopped playing it. I popped in today, but the game has changed again, and the queue has been paused altogether.

Work. Yeah, about that. There is none.

What else. I’ve been going for my daily constitutional at the Crystal Palace Park most afternoons. Walking on the grass to keep my distance. It’s a big park but I am beginning to recognise every blade of grass there. I wish I could add something exciting about these walks but I cannot.

Unsuitable

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Funny place childhood. A minefield of memories, a goldmine of recollections, long gone, it lingers on, vibrant, and alive. Our mind plays tricks on us and distorts the past, yet we treasure its fragments, gloss over the cracks. What remains of our beginnings is patchy, and yet, we hold on to it, re-imagine it, keep returning to what we once were. The world that ended, yet never leaves us, as we search for the reasons of what we have become, and strive to save it all from the blackness of not remembering.

When I was about six years old, my parents took it upon themselves to redecorate our tiny flat and further decided that this necessitated packing me off to my grandma’s on my dad’s side, to spend a couple of weeks in her equally tiny, but paint fumes free flat on the other side of town.

Off I went, Mr Bear, the yellow teddy in stripy dungarees firmly head-locked under my arm. I was always jealous of his rainbow-coloured dungarees, and used to fantasise about getting an exact same pair as a surprise birthday present from my mum, because she must have known I loved them. Never happened.

Grandma’s flat consisted of a bedroom-living room, the world’s smallest kitchen, and even smaller windowless bathroom which smelt of clogged up pipes. I guess you could call it studio flat, except nobody did back then. The main room, which was five paces long four paces across, contained, miraculously, a sofa bed a desk a table a dresser a few chairs and two wardrobes. It was impossible to move around without holding your tummy in. Or crawling under the numerous items of furniture on all four, which was my preference. The furniture was dark mahogany, with crocheted napkins scattered on top. The look and feel was heavy vintage with a hint of past family grandeur crippled in equal parts by historical event of the twentieth century and personal tragedy.  To my small curly blonde self it was just the perfect size exotic paradise.

Grandma was very old. She was so old I thought she might die during my visit, and then what would I do? Grandma had a big heavy black telephone, and I thought I might use it to call somebody to tell them that she’d died and to come and pick me up, but then I remembered that I would not know who to call in the event of her death. My parents had not had a phone line installed yet at the time. I could call my other grandma, I knew she had a phone, I’d spent hours on it listening to the talking clock, except I didn’t know her number.

Having ruled out calling anybody, I moved on to what I would do next in the event of Grandma’s sudden death, and decided that I would have liked to touch her hair, to check whether it felt the same that it looked, newborn chicken’s downy feathers, and then I would touch her deathly white face to find out whether it was naturally deathly white or did she use an impossibly pale powder to make it so, but then I thought, if she was dead then perhaps her face would have turned deathly white naturally, and then I would never know. I made a note to try and find an excuse to run my finger down her cheek when she was still alive to see what happened.

Many years later I looked things up and worked out that Grandma was 66 during my visit to her flat, not a hundred and twenty as I thought at the time.  She went on to live for another ten years, but when she did die, she did so alone in her flat, and that gave me guilty goosebumps for a long time, as I could not help thinking I brought this lonely demise onto her with my childish imaginings.

Grandma delivered a series of most extraordinary monologues during the two weeks I spent with her.  They were not conversations, because she could not possibly have expected me to respond in any meaningful way to the sentiments she expressed.  There was one particular thing she said that stayed with me for a very long time, truth be told it pops into my head every now and again even now.

‘I am sure your mother is a nice lady in her own way, but she just isn’t, never was a suitable person for our family. Your dad could have, should have done so much better.’

My grandma thought this was a perfectly suitable thing to say to a six year old me. She also thought it suitable to follow it up with a long look of despair mixed with tenderness. She must have felt acute regret of what could have been if only my dad had married somebody who ticked all suitability boxes instead, like her best friend’s daughter for example.
What Grandma said confused me beyond words. My mum not suitable for our family? My mum was my family, how could she have been unsuitable. What about me? Was I suitable? What makes somebody unsuitable for something and how did grandma know this?
Grandma entertained me with endless stories about her family history, my family history, during those two weeks. Proud tales of aristocratic connections, counts and duchesses, honorary titles, scholarly achievements, high ranking military heroes and medals for bravery seemed to have adorned several branches of our family tree down the centuries.  I found all this hard to follow and could never recall a single coherent story, but the overall impression was of impossibly grandiose lineage, long lost splendour, grand pianos and vast acres of land. Pitched against this background, my mum might have indeed appeared utterly unsuitable.

Mum was born in a small village on the Vistula river, in a modest wooden house, given to my great grandmother Helena by her parents on the day she married Jan, a local village teacher in 1911.  I have clear memories of that house, as it remained Jan and Helena’s family home until Helena’s death in 1982, coincidentally the same year my Posh Grandma died too.

Mum spent the first seven years of her life in the village, six of them taken up by the world war.
I can easily relate to the geography of Mum’s childhood because I too spent a bit chunk of my early years at the same place, same house, same views over the Vistula river bends from the top of the hill, same cabbage patch, same raspberry fields, same barn, same stables.

This story is not really going anywhere, I don’t have a neat ending for it. I could possibly make something up and go all nostalgic and even homesick about it, but all I really wanted to share was Grandma’s comment about my mother not being suitable for our family, which was one of those fleeting moments which happen to people and then they are stuck with them until they make a big deal out of them, and totally overthink them and try to make them sound like something significant and relevant, a defining moment, which contributed to shaping their lives. So there, I’ve done it.

A Chance Finding

Just for the record, below is my daughter’s entry to the short story competition I mentioned in my previous post.

A CHANCE FINDING

Novice palaeontologists bend a couple of rules, leading them to a once in a lifetime career break.

 

“Come on, what’s the worst that could happen?”

“We don’t find anything, we get caught, we get fired, would you like me to go on?”

Dan hesitated and then said, “No, that’s enough. James, aren’t you tired of just sitting in this office day after day, studying fossils that other people have found. If we don’t find anything, no one will even know that we went. There’s something waiting for us out there. I can feel it! And if we don’t go out there tonight, someone else will find it. Do you really want someone else to find our discovery?”

“Honestly, I wouldn’t really mind. Plus, does it really count as our discovery if we haven’t… discovered it yet?”

Yet! We haven’t discovered it yet! Tonight is our night, James. Just put your negativity on pause for one night.”

“But why can’t we wait until we officially get sent out onto the field?”

 

“We’re fresh out of Uni, of course they’re not going to send us out onto the field immediately.”

 

The two of them had met in university. They did not appear to be the most compatible couple of friends at first glance, but they bonded over a shared interest in the intricacies of coprolite analysis which, funnily enough, was not the most commonly-chosen topic to base a dissertation on.

“James, you call yourself a palaeontologist but the closest you’ve ever been to a dinosaur bone is in the Natural History Museum; palaeontology to you is like watching a foreign movie without subtitles.”

“And I’m perfectly okay with that.”

“But we didn’t even get that close to Dippy the Diplodocus because there was that colossal tour group there that day!”

James contemplated Dan’s words for a few moments.

“I’ll do it,” he sighed.

“Tonight,” Dan said. It had to be that night. The rest of the team were on an overseas expedition, but they were set to return in two days’ time. This meant that Dan and James would have to spend their last day alone ensuring everything was in order in preparation for their return, leaving only that night available to execute their plan.

 

“You seriously want us to hike up there? In the dark?”

“No,” Dan stated, which left James confused and forgivably suspicious, “we’re taking the Land Rover, and then we’ll walk after the road ends.”

James’ eyes widened. Before he could start to refuse, Dan said, “Look, if we’re going to get fired we might as well have fun and use one of the company cars.”

“Or we could just scrap this whole idea and not get fired!”

Dan glared at James until he eventually let out a long sigh of defeat.

“Fine,” James muttered.

“Yes! Yes-yes-yes!” Dan jumped up and down, punching the air with joy, ironically enough.

 

And so, at 7pm, with the sun already setting, they locked up their office building, took all the supplies they anticipated they might need and got in the car. They drove up the long windy hillside roads until they reached the end of the road which was a short distance away from the main field.

Dan got out of the car first and ran to the other side to open the door for a nervous James.

 

“I’m not getting out.”

“Yes. You are.”

“No, I’m-“

“If you don’t take risks in life, then what’s the point?”

“Comfort.”

“Comfort is just a scheme created by the government to-“
James scrambled out of his seat.

“Fine! Fine! I’m getting out! Just, please, don’t make me listen to another one of your nonsensical conspiracy theories.”

Works every time, Dan thought to himself.

 

They took the bags out of the boot of the car and made their way up the rocky hillside. With the sun steadily setting and their surroundings becoming noticeably darker, the two of them had to guide themselves to the main field using flashlights.

About twenty minutes later, they reached the spot that was best known for its prehistoric fruitfulness. However, recently there had not been as much luck and some palaeontologists were beginning to lose hope, thinking they had found all that could be found in that area.

 

“The Promised Land!” Dan exclaimed.

“That makes me Moses and you… you are my… people!”

 

Dan spun around to James with a grin and almost jumped at the sight of his glare to end all glares.

“Or we could be co-Moseses?” Dan suggested, his voice suddenly an octave higher.

He cautiously turned around and kept walking before James could respond with another one of his cynical comments.

“So where do we start?” James called out.

 

“I assumed you would know.”

 

“D’you know who would know?” James taunted.

“Nope, but I probably should’ve invited them instead of you.”

James ignored that comment. “Our boss. Our boss would know where we should start!”

“Why do we need the boss when we have my gut feeling to guide us? I’m like a metal detector for prehistoric bones and fossils. I can feel it in my bones,” he smirked at the most overused pun among palaeontologists worldwide, and then proceeded to picture the bones they would find.

 

“Go on then,” James said, a slight smile tugging at his lips, curious as to how this would play out.

Dan started walking to his right, imitating the movements and sounds of a metal detector, “beep… beep… beep… beep… beep-beep-beep-beep-beep-“

“Please stop making that noise,” James said, but you could hear the smile in his voice, “You sound more like the Road Runner than a metal detector which would make me Wile E. Coyote, and that means I will soon be falling off a cliff. I get the point. We’ll start where you’re standing.”

Dan could not help but raise his eyebrows at the sight of James finally loosening up. He chose not to mention it at the fear of ruining the moment, but when they both turned away from one another and to the ground, they were smiling.

 

After a solid half hour of digging, Dan looked up from the hole he was gently scraping away at to look over at James who was a few metres away from him, “I feel like a right Indiana Jones, don’t you?”

James glanced up at him and laughed, “Indiana Jones was an archaeologist, not a palaeontologist.”

“I didn’t mean literally, I just… I’m starting to understand his vibe, you know?”

 

“Not at all. Also, you’re 5’6”.”

“Who’s to say Jones wasn’t 5’6”?”

“Probably everyone who watched the movies.”

 

Dan didn’t respond.

“Oh my god! Dan! Dan, I think I might have something!”

 

Dan scrambled over to his spot, tripping over his own feet with excitement, and they both started scraping away at the sand and dirt surrounding the small object hidden beneath the surface. James pulled it out and they both looked at it expectantly as though it was going to spring to life and congratulate them on their find.
“An ammonite,” they said simultaneously, and then both slumped down onto the ground.

“My 4-year-old niece found one of these at the park the other day,” James said.

“Don’t give up hope just yet, my friend. They said that there was nothing left in this area, not bones, not fossils, not anything. But here we are, holding an ammonite that they couldn’t find. This means that there’s more here! We just need to keep looking!”

James looked up slowly at the pitch-black sky and held in a sigh, “Well, there isn’t actually a guarantee-”

 

“Maybe I am a prehistoric bone and fossil detector…” Dan whispered into the distance, like a detective when they make their big breakthrough in a case.

James just rolled his eyes and they both went back to work.

 

An hour went by and they found three more ammonites between them. They decided to keep them for when they would inevitably be studying them in the office, as it was beginning to look less and less likely that they would return as – in Dan’s words – ‘legends’.

 

Out of the corner of his eye, James noticed Dan’s flashlight flicker a few times before it eventually turned off. He shook it a few times, hit it against the palm of his hand, and flicked the switch a couple times but it wouldn’t turn back on. They looked up at one another with a sense of defeat.

They agreed to make their way back to the car before the other flashlight’s battery died, and they would have to blindly guide their way back to the car over a natural obstacle course of small hills and ditches.

 

As they started to descend down the hillside Dan suddenly lost his footing and started tumbling forward, his bag flying off his shoulder, landing him in a small ditch.

James ran down to where he was lying down and knelt down beside him.

“Are you okay? What happened?”

“There’s something digging into my back,” he groaned, unable to appreciate his incredible play on words.

James offered him a hand and lifted him up. After Dan had dusted himself off, he turned to James, whose jaw had dropped. He followed his line of vision to where the faint flashlight was pointing.

Just where Dan had been lying a couple moments ago, there was a small, dirt-covered object buried in the ground, poking out slightly. There was the possibility that it was a stone, but there was no certainty until they checked. They both dropped to their knees and started digging desperately, their tiredness had evaporated, replaced by more energy than a nuclear power plant as they frantically dug in the soil. Once they had fully dug around the object, Dan grabbed it and pulled it out, wiping the sand off. A dinosaur bone. Unmistakably. The shape of the three-toed foot suggested a theropod, quite a small one, possibly a Velociraptor.

They each let out a sigh of both shock and relief, and then they both started laughing, breathlessly.

“Our first discovery,” Dan whispered, completely stunned by the chance of their finding it.
James let out a joyous howl up to the night sky.

 

“Our first discovery,” Dan yelled into the empty space around them.

 

A couple of days later, when the research team returned home to find the bones of a theropod foot mounted like a trophy on the front desk, they were greatly confused. James and Dan formed a two-man welcoming committee and greeted their colleagues with two matching grins.

They had realised the morning after their nocturnal escapade that if they tried to take credit for finding the bones, they would be charged with trespassing on the dig site without security clearance and fired on the spot for using the Institute’s equipment without their boss’s approval, so they had to come up with a back-up story.

“How did this get here…?” Their boss asked, cautiously, as he approached it.

 

“Well, we completed the work you gave us early, so we decided to finish off our paper on the importance of coprolite research in micropalaeontology. We shared our findings on a Paleo dot com forum, and, a couple days later, voila, this beauty came in the mail, sent to us as a token of appreciation from a team of palaeontologists from Utah, who believe that our paper helped them enormously in moving a step closer to a final break-through in their own research. The foot is ours to keep and to work on as we please.”

“Wow. Impressive. In these circumstances, bizarre as they are, I think it’s only fair that the two of you should be given the first chance to work on it. Feel free to sink your teeth into it whenever you’re ready, boys.”

Dan and James’ eyebrows shot upwards in unison.

 

“R- Really?” James stuttered.

“Of course. Many of my colleagues would gladly give an arm and a leg for this foot”, he gave them both a warm smile.

That night a lavish party was thrown in their honour at the Institute. Or at least that’s how their retelling of the story developed over the years.

 

Dan and James thought about using their adventure as a basis for a smug motivational speech on how to succeed in their chosen profession, but they soon realised that perhaps what happened to them should not be used as career advice for newcomers to the field. What they would have had to say was that sometimes you need to take chances in life, and that success may come when you least expect it, or even when you have given up on it, and you feel like you are going downhill and straight into a ditch; and that it is sometimes best not to be entirely truthful with your boss about minor details of how you achieve your results.

Jurassic Crap

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My daughter is taking part in a short story competition. She has got 8 days to write a story, three prompts, the genre, the character and the theme, and the 2,500 word limit. The prompts are randomly allocated and all participants are split into a number of heats, everybody in the heat responds to the same three prompts. My daughter got Comedy – Palaeontologist – Successful.  My first reaction was, come again?

Famously supportive mother that I am, I thought I’d keep her writing company and produce a short story of my own, sticking to the same three prompts. I then spent the next couple of days secretly debating whether or not to abandon the project, because if I gave up before I started nobody would need to know, and I could get on with my life as if nothing happened. But then I thought, I was not getting defeated by some stupid random prompts, and started writing. What I wrote has no artistic value. It is froth and nonsense from start to finish. What I found fascinating though was that even as I spewed out word upon word of pure tripe, I was still getting pulled into this dull pointless prompt-centred world I was creating, and despite having nothing to say on the subject I managed to come close to the word limit in hardly any time at all. Scary stuff.
When I finished I sent my daughter my story with a short note; Dear A, this is by far the worst story I have ever written. It is not funny, it has no plot, but it has a palaeontologist in it and about 2,200 words.

So in a moment, there will be nothing protecting you from the worst no plot no humour non-story you are ever likely to read. I am posting it here just for the record.

I learnt one thing for sure in the last few days, namely never to be tempted to enter a writing competition. The very thought of a panel of faceless jurors reading and judging the freshness and originality of my style killed both of them dead.  You have been warned.

Jurassic Crap – The Story

The day Jurassic Park came to his local cinema, Frank ripped off his cherished Take That poster from the wall and replaced it with a black and red silhouette of a T-Rex. The decisiveness of his action excited and scared him in equal measures. He was never big on spontaneity, so that was a new territory for him, but as he tilted his head to admire his new bedroom decor, he saw his whole future unfold ahead, with the clarity he never thought possible for somebody as prone to awkwardness and confusion as he was. Half an hour into the movie, and he fell in love with the majestic animals, the lush vegetation and the sweeping Mesozoic landscapes. He found the human characters in the movie an irritating distraction and he did not care one iota whether any of them survived to the end or not. This sentiment was to become an overarching principle in his life, whereby he cared significantly more about magnificent dino-worlds and their many visualisations than about the relatively uninspiring reality around him.

Fifteen years later, the T-Rex, was still there on the wall, albeit faded at the edges, and Frank remained faithful to his love of prehistoric world in the way he never managed to maintain an attachment to another human being. He had lived and breathed fossils all his adult life, to the neglect of nearly all other pursuits, and occasionally, basic rules of hygiene. He felt much more at home in the Cretaceous period than in whatever decade he was currently living, in fact, he frequently had to remind himself exactly which decade that was. Frank was at his happiest buried in the underbelly of the Institute, tenderly unpacking and dusting off new artefacts, photographing them, cataloguing them, and affectionately stroking their corners when nobody was looking, trying to piece together their history, before sending them off to the lab.

Despite an unquestionable dedication to his work, Frank’s successes were modest and professional recognition eluded him. His doctoral thesis had twisted itself into a knot of taxonomies, taphonomies, a few other -omies, and ground to a halt in a blind alley, where it was currently parked and where it was going to remain unless he did something about it and soon. If he were to be completely honest with himself, and Frank was adept at avoiding such candour, he would have to admit the possibility that his whole research project might be heading for a scrap heap, pulling his entire career in the Institute with it.

This morning however, he woke up thinking that all of it was no longer of any importance, as his life was about to turn the corner. Today was going to be the first day worth mentioning in his future resume. He was getting the break he’d been longing for.  He conveniently shooed away a question whether he deserved the success that was inevitably hurtling towards him.

There were two reasons why he believed fate was about to deal him a winning hand at last. Both landed through the letterbox on his doormat yesterday.

First was his brand new passport. Frank applied for it several weeks before for no particular reason, just in case, and promptly forgot all about it, so its arrival was a surprise, not an amazing surprise, but not an unwelcome one either.

The second letter was from the Institute. Frank re-read his favourite part of the short note over his bowl of Weetabix, ‘In acknowledgement of your work for the Institute to date, which you always complete to extremely high standards and frequently demanding deadlines, we would like to invite you to an informal meeting to discuss a possible career advancement opportunity. Please contact…’

Frank tried hard not to believe in signs, especially since the last fiasco in that department, when he mistook Maggie’s blocking his number for a clear sign that she really liked him and was simply setting him a challenge by removing the most obvious method of communication from the equation. It was only when her new boyfriend turned up on his doorstep and crushed his septum with one well-executed blow that Frank realised that he might have misread the situation.

Today was different, though. With the passport and the letter arriving in his life at precisely the same moment, the writing was on the wall. He could feel it in his bones. His own bones, he added for his amusement, not the ones that piled in unopened crates in the corner of the room at work. He had a habit of adding palaeontologist in-jokes even when talking to himself.

He brought down a suitcase from the attic and decided to start packing straight away. He was not taking chances, in case they needed somebody who was available immediately. He practised his best casually smug facial expression in the mirror, ‘I’m ready whenever you are’.

Since he had no way of second-guessing which dig site they might have pencilled in for him, packing was proving tricky, so he checked long-term weather forecast for a number of possible countries scattered over four continents; better safe than sorry.
At 7.30 am he could wait no longer.

– Hello, Institute of Vertebrates, Professor Russel’s office, Angela speaking, how may I help you?
– Oh, hi, it’s Frank Dobson, I would like to schedule an appointment with the Professor, I received a letter inviting me to an informal meeting to discuss….
– Hold on a sec, let me log into Professor’s diary, is it urgent?
– Well – Frank put on his conspiratorial voice – you tell me, at the moment your knowledge about what we are likely to talk about is much more accurate than mine, as…
– I am afraid I have no idea what the Professor wishes to discuss with you, but he does have a last minute lunch cancellation today, so would you be able to come today at 12.30?
– A cancellation, I see. Rather a coincidence, wouldn’t you say? Seems like it is more urgent than I thought. Anyway, I don’t suppose you could lift the veil of secrecy, ever so slightly, just a little, and tell me if it’s Mongolia or …?
– Sorry, sir, you lost me. We shall be expecting you at 12.30, and the Professor will have 20 minutes for you.
– I guess discretion is a prerequisite in your job, fine by me, mum’s the word.
– Sir, I have another call waiting, so I am going to end this call, goodbye.
– Not to worry, I appreciate your professional approach, see you soon, nice talking to you.

Frank found himself delivering the last platitudes to the dull continuous phone signal, as Angela had disconnected.

Same day appointments with Professor Russell simply did not happen, unless it was a matter of life and death. Life and death of a fragile fossil site, Frank mused happily. The site which he was being sent to look after, secure and preserve to the best of his abilities. His reputation for being gentle with the artefacts must have been noted where it mattered after all. The only remaining question was, where was he going?

Still only eight thirty, plenty of time to take care of everything. He finished packing, went through the list of current projects the Institute had an interest in worldwide for the third time, made a cucumber and pumpkin salad for Jasper the gerbil, watered the plants, and then slapped his forehead as he suddenly remembered something. Cathy, his elderly next door neighbour was in.
– Hi Cathy, huge favour to ask.

Jasper’s and the plants’ survival secured, Frank strolled out of the door with half an hour to spare. It was only when he got to the bottom of the stairs to the Institute and was about to jump two steps at a time when he realised he was pulling the suitcase behind him. If he went back home now, he would end up being late for the meeting, so he carried on, slowly dragging his luggage upstairs.

– Frank! Thank you for coming so soon. Professor Russell outstretched his warm podgy hand towards him. Just wanted to run something past you. Oh, are you going away? Professor gestured to the suitcase.

– You tell me, Professor, Frank smiled, happy to play along.
If the Professor found his response a bit odd, he didn’t let it show. He carried on.

– I’ve looked at your work records for the last six months, and I could see that you spend most of your time sorting through rather large number of late Triassic fish bones. I hope it won’t put you off fish pie for life.
– I honestly don’t mind, Professor.
– Still, I thought you might be ready for a new challenge.
That was Frank’s cue to deliver his well-rehearsed line.
– I am ready Professor. Ready whenever you are, he added with a knowing nod of the head, overdoing the theatrics slightly.
– Right, right, good to hear. I must warn you though, the learning curve will be steep, and it might be unsociable hours.
– That’s an understatement and a half, Professor, if I may say so.
– Well, I wouldn’t…

– Alright, Professor, I like a bit of teasing just like the next person, but I don’t think I can keep this up much longer, please put me out of my misery. I tried to work it out for myself, I checked a number of our sites, but I am none the wiser, is it Mongolia? Because if it is, I just want to say I am totally fine with it, I mean Argentina sounds really interesting, and I actually got a decent grade in A-level Spanish. Not much use for Spanish in Mongolia, is there? But I think it would be amazing to visit the place, they say one in 200 men living today is a direct descendant of Genghis Khan, so it would be like visiting my ancestors’ graves, unless of course I am one of the remaining 199 men who are nothing to do with him, is it Mongolia, Professor?  And please don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against any other places, I would not want to sound ungrateful, and I am not saying that I wouldn’t be happy about Tanzania or even Utah, because I would, in fact, by all means, Africa, the cradle of civilisation, that makes a lot of sense, I am not picky, so yeah, anywhere at all. I’ve heard we are about to set up camp in Antarctica, is that true, because if it is, I am your man, too, language would not be an issue, I am not sure people are too chatty in those sort of temperatures. Oh, shoot, I will need a visa for Mongolia, won’t I?

Professor Russell was sitting very still. He covered his mouth with his hand, his eyes darting about. When he finally spoke, his voice was soft and gentle, ‘What, for the love of God, are you talking about?’

‘Actually, you know what, let’s try something else, let’s see if we could pretend that this had not just happened, and that you didn’t just lose your, well, not sure what it was really, I can only guess we were not working from the same hymn sheet excuse the cliché. Anyway, where was I, before you felt like sharing a list of random geographical locations with me, oh, yes, steep learning curve.  What I had in mind for you was to give you a senior supervisory role in our brand new coprolite analysis department.  What do you say?

It was Frank’s turn to sit in open-mouthed silence. This went beyond his most daring hopes. Instead of digging in dusty Mongolian steppes or sweating in bug-infested Argentinian pampas, with no guarantee of any significant find, the Professor was inviting him to dig in the actual excrement of actual dinosaurs, without leaving the comfort of the Institute. He was asked to devote his days to peeling off outer layers of mineralised crust to reveal the most precious core, the digested content of the stomachs of those beautiful beasts, oh, my, this was the closest he would ever get to taking the glorious creatures of his dreams for a walk and scooping their poop after them. Life did not get any better than this.

‘People never cease to surprise me’, Cathy told her church choir friends later that week, between sips of aromatic green tea. ‘Take my neighbour Frank. Maureen, you met him, the geeky fossil man. He tells me his boss dropped him in a heap of dinosaur shit, and I mean literally, mind you they have a fancy word for it, crapo-sphere or something, and Frank, bless him, happy as larry about it, calls it promotion, his highest professional achievement. I call it a pile of crap.’

 

To count or not to count

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Being a part-time writer part-time interpreter part-time wife and mother and all time over-thinker of everything leaves me with precious little time for anything else.

This week I am focusing on overthinking the number of words I should be writing a day if I wish to continue calling myself a writer, as well as the number of hours I should realistically devote to producing the self-prescribed daily word quota.

Having invested, or to be more accurate, wasted, a considerable amount of cognitive time on trying to solve this dilemma, I then made an effort to remind myself that perhaps I should aim for quality over quantity at all times, and if I ever manage to write something remotely reminiscent of one of those beautifully crafted  passages of prose which constrict the reader’s throat and cause a tear to slowly well up in the corner of their eye, then perhaps it really doesn’t matter whether I manage to adhere to a self-inflicted regime of two thousand words a day or any such similarly regimented madness. The only thing that such discipline would achieve would be the confirmation that I possess an abundance of will-power, but would not necessarily make me a writer, never mind a good one.

Or perhaps it would? Is the mere act of churning out words onto paper or screen enough to call oneself a writer, or is the quality of how these words sound when strung together a necessary deciding factor? I have now produced over 200 words writing this piece, which is probably borderline excessive for what it’s worth. I leave you with one of my favourite literary passages of all time. I have a collection of those, but this is the one that comes to mind whenever I think ‘writing perfection’. A few passages from the Bible fall into this category too, but quoting the Bible is spiked with complications, and I don’t want to lead anybody to a conclusion that I am a deeply religious Bible quoting person, because I am not that person at all. But the quote I have chosen is much safer, I hope.

“A few light taps upon the pane made him turn to the window. It had begun to snow again. He watched sleepily the flakes, silver and dark, falling obliquely against the lamplight. The time had come for him to set out on his journey westward. Yes, the newspapers were right: snow was general all over Ireland. It was falling on every part of the dark central plain, on the treeless hills, falling softly upon the Bog of Allen and, farther westward, softly falling into the dark mutinous Shannon waves. It was falling, too, upon every part of the lonely churchyard on the hill where Michael Furey lay buried. It lay thickly drifted on the crooked crosses and headstones, on the spears of the little gate, on the barren thorns. His soul swooned slowly as he heard the snow falling faintly through the universe and faintly falling, like the descent of their last end, upon all the living and the dead.”

– James Joyce, Dubliners

 

 

A Young Girl and the Sea

People often have a thing about the sea. Obviously not all people, some people don’t feel anything about the sea, nothing at all, and that might be because they are mountain people, or river people, but some definitely have this thing about the sea, and they go overboard about it, they mythologise it, worship it, talk about its endless appeal, they look at it with reverence and with awe, and see it as a vast infinite mystery of creation and the key to understanding the world, human soul and everything else. Personally, I think they are overthinking the sea, but each to their own.

What follows is a true story. As true as I can make it several decades after it happened. When I was seven years old I went to the seaside for the first time. I went with my mother, her friend Zofia, and Zofia’s daughter Goska, who was a year older than me.  The sea was some 400 kilometres away, so it was the furthest I’d ever been from home at the time. It felt like a massively exciting expedition and I couldn’t wait.

I managed to keep several surprisingly clear memories of that trip. One image I have is of the four of us walking to the beach through the village. The village the way I remember it consisted of long winding dirt track with wonky wooden houses on both sides of the road. The houses looked uneven, in a wavy sort of way, as if they moments from collapsing. I remember dark wooden planks glistening in the sun. I am not sure why they glistened, whether it was rain or a shiny varnish reflecting the sun. This is one of those useless but persistent memories that have stayed with me through the years.

The year was 1974, the year of World Cup final in West Germany. Poland was doing well in the tournament. My mother and Zofia threw themselves into the football and watched all the games on a small black and white TV, with tiny convex screen, like a giant eye of an alien insect.   They both smoked a lot, laughed a lot, shouted and swore every time the game was not going well for us. I remembered being utterly horrified by their behaviour. So much so that I decided to run away. I told Goska. She listened with a serious expression, nodded thoughtfully, and then she said to me, acting like the older and wiser person she was, ‘fair enough, if that is something you feel you need to do, then go ahead and run away, but I am not going with you, I like it here’.  I was furious with her. I felt betrayed and angry. The responsibility of going it alone made me panic and soon my plan was abandoned. I wanted to tell my mother that I was not going to speak to Goska the traitor for the rest of the holiday, but that would no doubt prompt further questions, so I just pretended nothing happened.

My final memory of the trip is of the journey home. We were changing trains at Kutno. We all got onto the connecting train, only to realise that we were on the wrong train. Zofia and Goska picked up their bags and got off the train in time. My mother was dragging our suitcase down the corridor when the train started moving. I knew we were on the wrong train so I sprinted to the nearest door, jumped off the moving train, and rolled onto the platform next to Zofia’s feet. As I got up, I remember seeing my mother leaning out of the window and waving at me vigorously. When we all got reunited a few hours later, she told me she was not waving, she was shaking her finger angrily at me, but I couldn’t see it clearly, as the train was gaining speed by then.

So there, this concludes my memories from my first holiday by the seaside. Dark wooden houses, football and jumping off a moving train. Nothing at all remains of the actual sea, the beach, the sand. No images, no smells, no sounds.  I have not a single photograph of the trip either. I never went to Łeba again. I am told it is quite pretty round there.

Book Recommendation

Today is going to be a good day.

People are persuaded to tell themselves this line, and it is supposed to change the course of their day. I don’t know if today is going to be a good day, but today is the day that I am going to recommend a book to you. This book was a very long time coming, and that is still an understatement.

The way this world works I am going to say that this book was written by somebody I know well, and it tells a story, or rather several mini-stories of court and police interpreting, as well as telephone interpreting and interpreting in social care and medical context.

The stories are entertaining, the book is enjoyable, even if I do say so myself. I would like to recommend it to you. If you do end up not only buying it, but reading it too, please write a review, I would be most genuinely interested to know what you think of it.

So here goes. No further ado.

Introducing View from the Dock, Diary of the Court Interpreter by Cordelia Novak.
I hope you like it.

 

We voted, now let’s start getting on again.

Last word from me on the subject, before I move on to Christmas. And that’s a promise.

A sense of post-voting deja vu has descended.
On the morning of the 24th of June 2016 I woke up to the BBC news ticker ‘UK votes to leave the EU’. I let out a short shriek of joy, threw my arms in the air, laughed, jumped up, laughed a bit more and couldn’t wipe a disbelieving grin off my face all day. In the evening I went online with the intention of sharing my celebratory mood with like minded friends, but I was stopped in my tracks by a deluge of doom and gloom status updates from the other side.

I decided it would be wise to stay silent for now. I kept my happiness to myself. It took me nearly a year before I dared come out as a Leave voter for fear of hurting the other side’s feelings. I never actively lied about which way I’d voted but I let people assume. It was easier that way and it meant avoiding being called a dumb naive idiot and worse by complete strangers online.

Today I feel this recent history repeating itself. The side I backed won again. This time the victory has been emphatic and, please let me say it just once, it felt bloody fantastic!
Still I feel that what is expected of me is to stay silent, again. I feel forced to show restrain in celebrating the election result for fear of hurting the feelings of those who backed the losing parties last week. I feel bullied into silence and restraint by those who wish to claim moral high ground just like they did three years ago. I am not sure I want to oblige this time, because I am really excited about what the future holds.

The sad side of it is that if I make my views known, I run the risk of being blocked, muted, unfriended and deleted by several people I have known for years, only because we hold different political views. Politics divides today like never before in my living memory.

When I first arrived in the UK I didn’t know how the majority of my friends were voting, they might have hinted but that was all. These days people from all sides wear their voting preferences as a badge of honour and use them as a starting point, and in some cases the only criteria whilst assessing another person’s intelligence, compassion, and decency.

Today, instead of white Christmas, I am dreaming of the day when this is no longer the case.